Trish
2009-02-24 14:59:19 UTC
alot of What you do matters to your child this is a skill you will know when you child at a young age. what you do and how you act makes a difference your child is watching you. so don't just react on your feeling out of the blue because you will or find your child later acting out like you do..same for your langugae kid are little ears that pick that pick up very fast they want to be like you. so ask yourself, What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to result in a way you can live with and not seening your self explain to a teacher or another parent why your child is acting out the way for feel guilty for.every child is looking up to parents or people they love so they can be like them.even if its a person you barely see affects the child it could be a person who yells swears bad behavoirs take place and with out this tools to teach your child will become lost in a world that seems overwheming.
You may have heard the myth that loving your kids to much makes them spoiled. You cannot be too loving Its in possible to spoil a child with love," now what we offen forget in are world is we often think of spoiling a child is result of showing a child too much love. It isn't but giving a child things in place of love we think are spoiling like giving into candy or a toy at the store and your child then starts to think well if i do this then i can get something at any store.which in turn leaves out too many melt downs all because of a toy or candy.your child knows you weakness and how your gonna give into something if they cry so beware that you might not think your spoling your child but you can get a idea if you are giving into beening spoiled.hugs and kisses is not over doing anything its not decilping that will get you into some trouble.
Be involved in your child's life Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your life styles and work. It means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do.finding ways to contact teachers or anyone that is involved in every day life with your child makes you feel more intone to things your child wants to learn more about withing school or out of school and learing how to tie them into your daily activities and family needs.Being involved doesnt mean taken over what your child wants in place of your needs either it means clearly to find out and support your child though growth and development.making sure your meeting those needs and if your child needs help and growth in other areas take that time to help your child ajust to other things and needs.
Establish rules should be done at early age and not to be expected when there 13 teen to know them because all of sudden you think its time to parent. don't change the rules because someone else is at your home to visit have your child know this is what you expect and have them at age approite.use your rules every where you go and make sure some are shared with family and friends.cause in the long run if you keep changing your rules your child is not going to know them and you might find your self causing more of a head ack then needed.let your child be independence Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. knowing what your child has already learned from you let htem take there steps forward to finding them selfs.dont hold your child back because you think they are too young to know or is unsafe let the child learn from some mistakes oh if i do this i know what will happen the cause and affect.doing fun projects help them learn those vaule strps to become who they are.Be consistent. "If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child's misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it."
Avoid harsh discipline parent should never hit a child, under any circumstances. "Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children."They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes. which can lead to relationship problems with other kids."There are many other ways to discipline a child, including 'time out,' which work better and beaing aggression.Explain your rules and decisions. "Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to," he writes. "Generally, parents overexplain to young children and underexpl