My teacher arranged a meeting with the guidance counselor for me? It is really bothering me?

Question

Hi,

A few days ago, my school's guidance counselor had requested for me to go to her room to have a "chat". Initially I had thought she was going to arrange for me to speak at a school assembly, (I am usually who she asks to do that type of thing, and every time she has called me to her office, it regarded some type of speaking role or leadership role) however when she had told me she just wanted to "chat" I had a feeling this was a guidance appointment. I had never scheduled one, so I had asked the guidance counselor what she wanted to talk to me for. She said my homeroom teacher wanted her to talk to me about how I am working "too hard" and that I am"ahead of the class" and need to slow my pace down a bit. No, I am not joking, I am not exaggerating or lying just to get you to consider me "smart" or something along those lines. That is exactly what the guidance counselor said, word for word. I was bewildered at this, as teachers are supposed to encourage hard work, right? I am in grade 8, in preparation for high school and statistics show that during ninth grade your marks drop approximately 10%, therefore good work habits should form so that you can be ready for that change. The guidance counselor had also said that I must not take my grades so seriously (I admit, I do tend to take grades extremely seriously). This led me to believe that I had got a bad grade on a specific test, which was why the teacher had requested a guidance appointment for me (in hopes of working me down so that I wouldn't over react?). The guidance counselor wasn't told anything about that, and when I had asked my teacher about it she had said she had not marked my test yet. This guidance appointment kind of bothered me, in a sense it seemed pointless. I know this question is kind of pointless, but what should I do? Should I tone down my work ethics? Will that result in "slacking off"?

Answer 1

Honey, your guidance counselor probably shouldn't have said that. Yes, it's unhealthy to stress too much about your grades-- and if you think you're stressing now just wait-- but honestly the world needs people who take what they do seriously. It might as well start in the 8th grade.



You should not tone down your work ethics. I wish more people would tone them up! Don't be afraid to sit down, relax, and have fun once in a while, but hard work pays off.



You seem like a really smart girl who is on the path for a great future. Don't worry about people who think you need to tone it down. It's hard to go from slacking to working hard (that's what I'm trying to do. Not fun.) Keep up the good work!

Answer 2

Trust me, keep doing what your doing, but know when to take a break. I wish i had half of the willpower you do to work hard in school. I was in all honors classes in pretty much my entire life. When i got to the ninth grade, i actually began getting some f's on tests. I am a sophmore now and i had to drop two honors classes so my gpa wouldnt suffer. I am stressed out constantly, because i know that if i put in the work i can get the straight A's that i want so badly. I say all of that to say keep working hard but dont work too hard. If you dont take a break once and a while it can lead to anxiety, stress and even depression. Hope this helped

Answer 3

it could be that your teacher and/or counselor recognized something obsessive in your behavior. most anything to excess is a bad thing, maybe they see you stressing yourself beyond the benefit of your extra work, maybe they see other things within you that need development. while it is the job of the educators to teach you, school also is where an awful lot of social development comes from, while that is not normally the concern of the teachers, maybe you arn't the normal student either..